Yesterday something I wrote was reposted on the page of a busy diabetes Facebook group, and I was torn a new one.
I thought I’d written the story of a fairly dangerous thing my child did while he was low, and how I wondered if I’d done all I could to prevent it from happening again. I concluded that avoiding dangerous hypo behavior is a skill that develops with experience and age, like walking. (Not via formal instruction, as with the Whip & Nae Nae.)(And A Sweet Life included the video!) The end.
People in the Facebook group were almost uniformly pissed. Some to the Donald Trump level.
Stupidity at its best.
Yeah, that’s it. Punish the kid for something he ABSOLUTELY has no control over.
You can not be punished for diabetes. Period.
I don’t think punishing any child is okay.
You are setting up your child to delve into diabetes burnout, regret, hating their lives, and depression.
Sad that any child has to experience hypoglycemia let alone get punished.
This could be the most idiotic thing I have ever read about T1 parenting. Get a frickin grip. You need some serious counseling.
I’m honestly dumbfounded as to how this is even a topic.
Does she think all lows are the same? Because they are not.
If you think your brain is working when you are hypo, you are delusional. Maybe you had a hypo while writing that?
Punishing a child for their body’s reaction to an abnormal biological experience is WRONG!
Punishing a child for a medical complication is abuse. It reminds me of when police beat hypo drivers when they think they are drunk.
I chimed in, stupidly attempting to clarify. Initially I’d assumed they hadn’t read the piece, only the title and the comments of the other angry people. I thought, these people seem to have tempers. Maybe they think “punishment” means the introduction of something negative: a spanking or washing the mouth out with soap. (Do people still do those things?) The punishment in question here was the kind where you take away something good, like video game time or, in this case, a phone.
But these people were not confused. Some of the (less angry) commenters understood exactly what my situation was: I took my son’s phone away after he’d done a fairly dangerous thing while hypo, and then I wondered if that was fair (or not) or if that would help him remember to not do the fairly dangerous thing again (or not). The answer was a resounding of course not!
This was helpful to me. Before, I honestly thought an equal number of people would say, “He did THAT and all you did was take his PHONE away for a few hours?” as, “You took his PHONE away for doing something dangerous when he was LOW?” Surprisingly (to no one but me), zero people were in the former category.
I still think there must be something I can do to help Bubs learn to keep it together during those rare, extreme lows. One commenter said she chants, “sugar, sugar, sugar” to herself until she gets some sugar because otherwise she’ll forget what’s happening. I love that! I can use that. Probably works much better than beating a child with a wooden spoon too!
These commenter’s wishes have come true:
I have often wished that parents of type 1s walked in the shoes just once.
I wish that every parent of a type 1 could experience a few very lows and a few very highs.
Someone who doesn’t have the disease will never understand what it feels like.
I’d like to have her BS drop and see how well she can control her actions!!!