Inspiration for how to be
This week, boys haircuts. Notice, as if elf on shelf for observe self, burble enthusiasm this mother’s manner re reveal child is transgender.
Overhear self address boys’ stylist/Bigfoot friend Having a transgender child just sort of forces you to be a spokesperson, you know? Like no matter how private you are, you have to say something to pave the way for the child because so few people will understand what is happening.
Bigfoot not talkative normal circumstance. Yet some reason compelled enthuse out loud. Stylist friend not benefit from Bigfoot blather this topic. Nod empathy, pull hair strands taut either side of boy face, see if even. Snip snip. Elf on shelf clear throat. Bigfoot larynx brake. Ohhh. And aha!
This grace, this love for child, apply–>every parent. E.g. OH MY GOD LIKE RIGHT HERE INSIDE BIGFOOT, so dread set up 504 plan because not wish draw (more) attention child/self/family at school already so much special doing. Feet drag. Not want. But need. But not want. But now do. And now feel…empowered (too dramatic?) No. Yes empowered say out loud & in legal document this is what my child needs to function at school and please do not try to make him eat doughnuts and if that makes you hate me, that’s on you.
Ok, so, transgender child story not same Bigfoot situation, not even same scale, but FWIW, profound affect parenting style. I.e. Say Clearly What You Need from the good people surrounding you* instead of whatever it is you have been doing that has led to things not really working at all. And Yes, it is possible to strike a perfect tone of confidence without being strident, and here is proof. Do it like that.
Inspiration for salad
This salad is so good. Creator warns:
Some people won’t like it. Some people will like it just fine or even a great deal. And some people will become deranged about it, obsessed, and the email they send asking for the recipe will be time-stamped 3:25 AM, because they were up in the night thinking about it in all it’s spicy-crunchy-tender-sour-salty-caramelized glory.
Bigfoot = Group Three, i.e. salad-deranged group. Bigfoot hot tip for lazy salad maker is buy peeled, cubed butternut squash at BJs instead of DIY. Also add so many peanuts.